You're respected at work. Your life looks right from the outside. But you're angrier than you should be, or flatter, or both — and the people closest to you are starting to feel it. You don't have a clear word for what's wrong, which makes it harder to do anything about it. $300/session. Private-pay. Evenings and early mornings available.
You were taught to produce, to perform, to solve. What you probably weren't taught — and what almost no one teaches men in the environments you've moved through — is how to recognize what you're actually feeling, what to do with it, or who to bring it to. Most of the men I work with don't have a person they talk to about this stuff. Not a real one. Friends are there for logistics and catching up, not for whatever is happening internally.
So when things get hard, there's nowhere for it to go. It comes out as irritability with your partner, impatience with your kids, a kind of flatness that follows you even on good days. You might be drinking more than you used to, or working more than you need to, or noticing that the things that used to feel like relief just don't land the same way anymore.
You're not falling apart. But something is wearing.
If any of these sound familiar — things you've typed into a search bar and closed without clicking anything — you're not the only one:
Not sure if therapy is the right next step? Take a 3-minute mind-body self-reflection — built around the patterns I see most often. It won't diagnose anything, but it might help you name what's going on.
Take the mind-body check →Anger and emotional flatness often show up together in men who've spent years in high-demand environments with no real outlet for anything that isn't productivity or performance. Anger is usually the one emotion that got full expression growing up — it signals strength, control, forward motion. Everything else got compressed. Over time, that compression has a cost: you lose access not just to the difficult feelings but to the good ones too. Flatness isn't numbness by choice. It's what happens when the range gets narrow enough that very little gets through in either direction.
The relationship strain follows from this. Your partner can sense that something is unreachable in you, even if neither of you has a language for it. Your kids feel the edge in ways that have nothing to do with whether you love them. The gap between how much you care and how available you actually feel to the people you care about — that gap is what most of the men I work with are sitting with when they come in.
What changes in therapy isn't your personality or what made you successful. It's the range. Building the capacity to actually feel what's happening — and to have somewhere to put it — tends to make the anger less necessary.
I do written case conceptualization, a treatment plan with measurable goals, and scheduled progress reviews every 6–8 weeks. If it's not working, we recalibrate. That's how I'd want my own healthcare to work. This isn't indefinite processing — it's structured work with a direction.
Early mornings and evenings. Designed around schedules that don't have flex in them.
Working outside insurance keeps your care more directly between you and your provider. A superbill is available after each session for out-of-network reimbursement if you choose to file one.
No affiliation with your employer, your organization, or anyone in your professional network.
I understand the specific environment that produces this — what it means to have built a career on performance and reliability while the internal infrastructure quietly ran thin. I'm not here to tell you what you should have done differently. I'm here to work on what's actually happening now.
You might recognize yourself here.
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A managing director at a private equity firm, fifteen years into a career that’s required him to be decisive, composed, and always a step ahead. He’s good under pressure in a way that’s become so automatic he’s not sure he knows how to be any other way.
He’s been with his partner for twelve years. She told him six months ago that she feels like she’s living with someone who’s present but not really there. He didn’t know how to respond to that. He’s not sure she’s wrong.
He’s thought about therapy before and dismissed it — not because he thinks it’s useless but because he couldn’t figure out what he’d say or what problem he’d bring. The problem doesn’t have a clear shape. He’s just started to notice that the things he built his life around don’t feel the way he expected them to, and he’s running out of explanations for why.
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Sessions are offered through a private-pay practice. Superbills are available for clients seeking out-of-network reimbursement, which may offset a portion of the fee depending on your plan.
Working outside insurance allows for a more personalized, flexible, and thoughtful therapeutic process.
Book a free 15-min fit call →A fit call first — 15 minutes, no commitment. If we move forward, the first one or two sessions are assessment: I’m building a clinical picture of what’s going on, how long it’s been going on, and what’s relevant context. After that, you get a written case conceptualization — what I think is actually happening — before we begin formal treatment. Sessions are 50 minutes, virtual, weekly to start. It’s structured. You’ll know at any point what we’re working on and why.
The fit call is the right place to figure that out. You describe what’s going on; I give you my honest read on whether therapy is likely to help, what it would look like, and whether I’m the right person for it. If the answer is no, I’ll tell you that directly. There’s no commitment involved in the call.
No more than is clinically necessary. The goal is to understand what’s driving what you’re experiencing — which sometimes requires describing emotional states, because that’s the data. But this isn’t a process of narrating feelings for their own sake. It’s structured work with a direction. You’ll know what we’re working on, why, and how we’ll know it’s changing.
No. Most people come to therapy because something external made the cost of not going too high — a conversation, an ultimatum, something that finally landed. That’s a legitimate reason to start. What matters is what you do with the intake once you’re in it. The motivation tends to shift pretty quickly once the work begins.
Written case conceptualization after intake. Treatment plan with specific goals. Progress reviews every 6–8 weeks. If something isn’t working, we recalibrate. I’m not going to ask you to sit with open-ended questions indefinitely. This is structured work that moves.
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